What do you do first?
The children arrive at your doorstep whether it is expected or unexpected, it is a shock, and there is much to do. Organising beds and clothing and food is an immediate need. Many of the local charities will be able to assist with this.

Helping children to feel safe.
It is important that the children feel safe in your home. Children need clear boundaries to feel safe and secure. Letting them know what they can and cannot do in your home is important. Can they get a drink without asking? What time are they allowed to get out of bed in the morning? Where will they be sleeping? Where you will be sleeping and can they wake you if they are scared at night? All these things help to make children feel safe and welcome. Now is not the time for sympathy and over indulgence. Now is the time for kind, clear boundaries to help the children feel secure and protected.

Getting to know your grandchildren.
Some grandparents already have established relationships with their grandchildren, others may have only met their grandchildren a few times. Whatever your past relationship, things will be quite different now. You will now be responsible for all of the mundane day-to-day necessities and this will be a stressful time for all of you. Finding a regular time to spend together relaxing will help in building this new relationship. You will have the joy of watching the growth and development of your grandchild in a new way.